I used to religiously straighten my curls twice a year, so I could flaunt my length and just change things up for a bit.
I moved away from doing this a few years ago, and now it’s been a full two years since I have straightened my hair. I do not miss it. Here’s why.
Naturally kinky-curly hair is already vulnerable to variables like the weather. Is it windy today? Cold and dry? Well, what’s the humidity like? Rain?
I love my hair, but sometimes
I am fairly lazy when it comes to styling. I care more about keeping my hair moisturized and tangle free, than I do about changing my hair style on the regular. I don’t have the time or inclination. Keeping up a temporary straight style means I have to be careful of my edges every time I wash my face (I don’t use makeup wipes). Not only that, I still have to wrap it and tuck it away, so that I can avoid re-applying heat to sections that have reverted or gone kinky. I have to walk on eggshells with how careful I have to be with straightened hair. It’s too high maintenance!
2. The Split Ends
The ends of my hair split faster than the sun in a British winter, when I flat iron it. So
I don’t have to get inches of my hair cut off as often now that I don’t straighten it. I do still apply heat 1-2 times a year for a stretched look, but I use a lower heat setting and the tension method.
3. Growing Bored
Whenever I would straighten my hair, right away I would be flexin in the mirror and looking like
But then a couple days later, I’d be bored and missing the volume that comes with my natural curls. I'd be questioning why I even bothered.
4. The Compliments I Received
This may seem brattish of me, but I
I grew to hate getting compliments on my straight hair from people who otherwise never said ish about my curls. I would think oh NOW I’m attractive to you? Oh NOW my hair is acceptable? Among the worst comments would be: “Oh, you straightened your hair! You should wear it like that more often!” At moments like that, I would internally scream in Black power fist, while smiling on the outside like
As God is my witness, you gone take this Black birthright on my head because I ain’t goin nowhere. No, I don't think I am allowing others to dictate how I wear my hair. I realized I just don't care that much about the straightness of my hair (see reasons above).
5. Shifting Motivations
When I first noticed I wasn’t so eager to straighten my hair anymore, I searched myself for my original motivations. Sure, I used to think that straight hair = sleek, or formal hair (white European beauty ideals are super entrenched, y’all), and thus would straighten my hair for special occasions. But there were other, more superficial reasons. I realized that I was primarily straightening my hair to revel in my length once or twice a year. But... micro braiding my hair once a year gives me the same opportunity, and is way more flexible!
Micro-braiding gives me all of the length straightening would afford, minus the split ends and high maintenance. It lasts a lot longer, too. The only drawback is the amount of time it takes for installation and take down (~30 hours 😥). 30 hours in exchange for 8-10 weeks of wear is pretty good in my book.
What about you? Do you like straightening your hair, or are you meh on it?
Decided to do a series on my experiences and recommendations as a formulator for hair and skincare products. It's been a long road, sometimes frustrating but usually exciting. I want to share the successes AND the failures. The latter is how we learn.
I am childless by choice, but I do have these adorable, curly haired fur babies who came into my life in January 2016
Bo and Livvie are Shih Tzu-Maltese. The latter breed can have curly fur, and they definetely have that trait! While they do not shed hair (which is why I can own them as an allery sufferer) like short-hair dogs, their hair needs to be taken care of with great sensitivity. At first I tried to use all natural soap, but it made their hair feel dry and straw-like afterwards. I realized my obvious mistake later becaue I would never wash my own hair with soap, even the natural kind. The pH is above neutral, thus not good for natural hair.
After looking up ingredients for puppy shampoos, I noticed that most, if not all, do not include sulfates and lots of other ingredients that most natural hair wearers don't like either. Dogs have really particular skin, prone to all kinds of skin ailents. If you are a person with sensitive skin you can understand. The majority of dog shampoos on the market are comprised of coco betaine as the main surfactant (detergent). It is the one that boosts the bubbles, thickness and efficacy of other surfactants in shampoos. I made my own puppy shampoo by adding this ingredient, plus another one that is commonly used in children's products because of its mildness (also in our sensitive skin face wash!): disodium laureth sulfosuccinate, or DLS Mild.
Air-Drying Their Curls
Regular Detangling sessions
In addition to eczema, I have a lot of allergies and sensitivities, which can produce distressing results on my skin, like welts and patches of redness. I even used to be plagued with chronic urticaria and angioedema. Since lowering my gluten intake and consumption of processed foods and sugar, this condition arises less frequently.
These little creatures are the loves of my life (don't worry, my partner knows). Here's some random cuteness and you can follow Livvie and Bo on Instagram: BournBitches (Yep, I'm one of those 'moms').
First. of. all! This video is about 6 minutes, not 9. IDK what happened. Anyway...
In my last video, showed you my super quick, no fuss wash day routine. I styled my hair into a wash n go. This video is that wash-n-go on day 4, after lots of cool, windy, rainy weather, and no moisturising. EEek. But I rescued it with just one product.
I dragged my feet long enough. I have made a Facebook page to make it easier to interact with everyone. You can also leave reviews there, or even pitch ideas for future products! Be sure to Like us!
First, let me be clear, hair grows. That's what it does. What we need to focus on is preserving the growth we attain every month. When you think your hair isn't growing, more that likely it is, but you are not preserving your hair properly, thus making it easier to break off. So it appears as if it is not growing, when in fact it is. Clearly, there are outliers, but this is true for most cases.
Increasing blood circulation is vital for all parts of our bodies. Our hair might be dead, but
Water is a boon to naturally kinky-coily hair. It is essential in the effort to preserve the quality and length of our hair. The more often you spritz your hair with aqua, the less likely it is to become tangled, break or look dull. You can use plain ol' distilled water, or a moisturizing spritz or cream that contains emollients and softners to give a little extra mmph. In long haul flight, make sure you take a travel-friendly size to relieve your hair of the nasty, recycled air in the omane's cabin!
Once hair springs from the scalp, it is considered a dead fibre. Our nails and hair are made of the same stuff: keratin, a protein. Everything we do to our hair is to preserve it. There are no blood vessels, so hair can’t fix itself, or regenerate. It’s dead. The best we can do is low down weathering and protect it from other damage and deterioration. Two important ways to do that are: